Schuyler Bailar (he) presents an essential and powerful guide that redefines the conversation about gender identity.
In a context where trans people face systematic attacks in sports, healthcare, education, public spaces, and even in U.S. legislation, He/She/They offers urgent and necessary answers. From why being trans is not a choice to the importance of pronouns, covering complex topics such as gender-affirming healthcare or access to sports for trans youth, Bailar addresses each issue with clarity, compassion, and a fact-, science-, and history-based approach.
Through his personal experience and work as an educator, Schuyler restores humanity and common sense to a discussion often politically and polarizingly manipulated. Although he did not seek to be an activist, his public transition as the first trans man to compete on a men’s NCAA swimming team at Harvard made him a visible and transformative figure.
This book is both a tool for those who want to be allies and a message of support and affirmation for the trans community itself. With a close and didactic style, Schuyler provides the language and context needed to talk about gender with empathy and openness, promoting understanding, acceptance, and connection among people.
He/She/They not only debunks myths: it celebrates trans joy and firmly and hopefully answers the question “Does it get easier?” with a resounding yes. A crucial, brave, and luminous book.
